
For this Valentine’s-day inspired post, I wanted to move away from the classic How-To, towards simply sharing my own experiences with love.
Lately, I’ve been feeling compelled to teach less and share more.
According to the Astrological Ages, we’ve moved out of the Piscean age (the age of hierarchy and power), into the Aquarian Age (the age of information and wholeness).
During the Aquarian Age, there is less focus on hierarchy, identity and needing to believe in something outside ourselves. No one person or philosophy is believed to have the answer.
There is now more focus on accepting that we already have the knowledge and wisdom within ourselves.
To be of service to humanity isn’t to directly teach, but to explore and share.
On that note - here is my personal experience with romantic partnership and love - and the tools I used to help me experience true fulfillment and joy in this area.
What has worked for me around love & partnership:
1. The most important, intimate relationship is with the Self.
A few years before meeting my partner, I felt like a total mess - not only in my romantic relationships, but with myself.
Simply put - I was not in a good place emotionally, physically and mentally.
But as I got to know myself more intimately (i.e. spending time alone, taking up different hobbies, reading books, taking time for contemplation and reflection etc..), I was able to fall in love with myself and my life more deeply.
This allowed me to bring a more empowering, confident, liberated version of me to my relationships.
2. Being grateful for what is.
I am so grateful for every single one of my past relationships for they helped me learn what I did and didn’t want.
This clarity was the foundation for calling in the partnership and love I’ve always wanted.
As Abraham-Hicks states:
“And without the ability to know what you do not want, you could not know what you do want. And so, it is through your exposure to life experience that your natural preferences are born.”
Living different experiences provides us with the opportunity to get clear on our preferences and intentions.
Knowing what you don’t want, will help you clarify and focus on what you do want.
Often times, I would be in a relationship and I would intuitively know it wasn’t the long-term partnership I wanted.
I would become stressed about wasting each other’s time. I would feel guilty. I would feel hopeless thinking that perhaps what I wanted didn’t exist. In short, I would fall into a negative thought loop.
Now that I have some perspective, I can see how all my past relationships were bridges to this current one. (And I wish I would’ve lightened up a little and had just enjoyed the ride!!).
